Following up on the inner voice topic - a really common thing for your brain to get buzzy over (particularly when trying to get to sleep!!) is either rehearsing something that hasn't happened yet - or re-doing something that has.
A common example of a re-do is a conversation you have had with someone that you being to question.
Did they get what you meant?
Could you have explained it better?
Did they think you were a total raving lunatic and were actually just nodding and smiling to get rid of you??
We can go over things all we like - but there is no changing what has already happened. If it was something you did or said that perhaps could have gone better - the only useful reason for re-doing this is to rehearse a different scenario.
This can actually be a very useful tool if used well. You have probably heard of positive visualisation for sports stars. Imagine yourself getting that goal - or hitting that ball.
Unfortunately more often than not we rehearse ourselves totally stuffing up. If you do this - don't worry - you are not alone!
But here's the thing - imagining the worst case scenario can actually be useful too as it's our brains way of protecting us from what may happen. Just hear it out then decide go go ahead and be an idiot anyway. Go bungy jumping - climb a mountain - buy the dress! Yes you may die - it's always possible - but is that reason enough to stop you living?
In reality however we can't possibly imagine every worst case so while it can be useful to go over some "what if's" its much more productive to think in "what IS" and go over the facts.
Have I done this before?
If not - have other people
What is the most likely result based on past experience?
Do you rehearse? Does it ever go exactly like you were planning? If not do you frantically lie awake at night re-doing?
Are you consciously aware of these processes or perhaps you have the ability to shut them out? Do you suffer from an inner critic? Or perhaps the inner defender who constantly reassures you it isn’t your fault? Or have you tamed your inner coach to cheer you on in life?