I have been working on getting my inner critic to bugger off. As a person who suffers from anxiety it is an ever-present little creep sitting on my shoulder
So after a fair amount of research, and applying some NLP practices, I have been paying great attention to that voice, then repeating what is says out loud. To be honest, besides appearing like a total nut bar, it’s rather hilarious. Once you say it out loud it really does take a lot of the power away.
- The inner critic is there to keep us safe, stop us from doing silly or dangerous things, and to make us question ourselves over things we are perhaps not prepared for or not skilled enough to do safely. “You can’t do that!”, “You must be crazy”, “You must be stupid”
- The inner defender is there to reassure us that events or decisions are outside our control, things happen to us regardless of our actions or decisions, and there is nothing much we can do about it. “It’s not your fault”, “There’s nothing you could have done”.
- The inner coach is there to encourage and move you forward on your chosen path. (People often equate this with their Mums voice). “You can do it”, “you’ll be great!”
I often wonder if I am the only one who has this inner dialogue in constant flow.
Like anything however, the minute I started talking about it I have discovered people with very minimal or rare internal commentary, (oh the peace and quiet they must have in their head!) or people who only ever question themselves when trying new or scary things.
Are you consciously aware of these processes or perhaps you have the ability to shut them out? Do you suffer from an inner critic? Or perhaps the inner defender who constantly reassures you it isn’t your fault? Or have you tamed your inner coach to cheer you on in life?